The Lyon/Rubin Method
for Healing Shame

After more than four years of training with and assisting Bret Lyon and Sheila Rubin, co-creators of The Center for Healing Shame, I am proud to carry on their legacy as their first faculty member.


Healing Shame Core Workshop: Understanding, Reducing and Transforming Shame

Shame is perhaps the most painful of all emotions. It is at the root of both the inner critic and perfectionism. It binds with other emotions, such as anger and fear, so that is often hard to detect. Also, revealing shame can be in therapy, shame–unacknowledged and not worked through–is the primary factor. Available worldwide via Zoom.

Hosted by: Bret Lyon, Sheila Rubin and Brian Mahan
Location: Zoom video conference
Saturday, June 20, 2020 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM
Saturday, June 27, 2020 10:00 AM - 5:30 PM

Cancellation Policy: No refunds. Non-transferrable. The amount paid may be applied toward a future workshop within 12 months.

Healing Shame - Melting the Shame Freeze

A somatic approach to working with healthy shame and effectively healing toxic shame. Available worldwide via Zoom.

Learn effective somatic tools and techniques to:

  • Connect more quickly with the client
  • Forge a strong therapeutic alliance
  • Resource the client
  • Resource yourself to avoid counter-transference
  • Recognize the physiological tell-tale signs of shame in your clients and help them to better understand it
  • Help your client to safely titrate and pendulate in and out of their shame
  • Counter over-verbalization, dissociation and freezing
  • Help your client experience how and where they hold onto shame in their bodies
  • Learn techniques and theory from Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing), Ron Kurtz (Hakomi) and Eugene Gendlin (Focusing)

Hosted by: Brian D. Mahan, SEP
Special guest: Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT

Location: Zoom video conference

Sunday, July 19, 2020 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM
Sunday, July 26, 2020 10:00 AM - 5:30 PM

Cancellation Policy: No refunds. Non-transferrable. The amount paid may be applied toward a future workshop within 12 months.

Who can take these trainings?

  • Mental Health Practitioners*
  • Somatic Therapists*
  • Talk therapists*
  • Social Workers
  • Coaches
  • Ministers
  • Nurses
  • Teachers
  • Helping Professionals
  • Parents

*13 CE credits ONLY for in-person participants CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393

There are no prerequisites. No prior experience working somatically required - all levels welcome.  This workshop can be taken on its own or applied toward certification as a Lyon/Rubin Method for Healing Shame Practitioner.

About Shame and Toxic Shame

Shame is a ubiquitous human experience. It is used in every culture to socialize children and to protect the tribe. Our physiological reaction to shame helps us to maintain the interpersonal bridges that are imperative for our survival. It not only increases the likelihood of being embraced by and remaining a part of the tribe, but it teaches us how to thrive in community. Without it, we would lack the self-awareness of our own limitations, have no moral compass and there would be no rule of law.

During the pre-verbal, precognitive and pre-conceptual stages of early development, rejection and abandonment equates with death. Shame is an instinctual survival response to a nearly impossible situation. Shame’s function is to lower affect and thereby reduce the risk of falling out of favor with the care-provider.

Like other developmental trauma, shame also informs how we come to see ourselves and others. In doing so, it forms our beliefs about who we are and how others relate to us. Over time, these conscious and embodied beliefs may manifest into Toxic Shame. When shame is internalized and identified with, we spiral into self-loathing and form the belief that we are without value or purpose and therefor unlovable. Toxic Shame debilitates us and isolates us from humanity.

Releasing the underpinning of toxic shame, by transmuting it into healthy shame, restores vibrancy, self-esteem, resilience and self-reliance.

About the Center for Healing Shame

The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. The Center for Healing Shame is an international education center and CE provider, dedicated to supporting therapists, counselors, coaches, teachers, nurses, healers and other helping professionals around the world to understand and transform client shame through workshops, training, certification, and research.

Our current workshops include:

  • Healing Shame - The Core Workshop*
  • Sex, Sexuality and Shame*
  • Melting the Shame Freeze: Working with Shame Somatically*
  • Through the Looking Glass: Using Imaginal Resources to Heal Shame*
  • Healing Shame in Couples
  • Shame and the Body: Body Image, Eating Disorders and Embodiment - Learning to Love our Bodies at any Age
  • Healing Shame in Inner Children - and Actual Children
  • Healing Shame in Inner Teenagers - and Actual Teenagers
  • Shame and Aging
  • Advanced 1: Giving Back the Shame
  • Advanced 2: ShameShifting: Transforming Toxic Shame into Healthy Shame

*Currently offered, as well, by Brian D. Mahan, SEP

Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP and Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT, the founders of the Center for Healing Shame, have co-led workshops on Healing Shame for over a decade in many cities in the U.S. and Canada, including Berkeley, New York, Montreal, Ottawa and Victoria, BC. Both have trained in EFT with Sue Johnson and in AEDP with Diana Fosha.

For more information about Bret and Sheila visit

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